Are you feeling frustrated, demotivated and feeling left behind? You see your friends, classmates in college or elementary and anyone your age who have stable jobs, travelling a lot, buying cars, getting married and stuff. You question yourself why you're still unfullfilled, don't know what to do with life, still unsure with your job, constantly leave work for another or currently unemployed. DO NOT GET ALARMED. Chill! You may seem slow in fulfilling your life but you'll get there.
What does fulfillment mean? It may differ to anyone. One person might feel fulfilled if they have lots of money, have a high paying job; own a car, a house, or a business; has travelled the whole world, have settled down. Another might feel fulfilled if they've crossed out everything on their bucket list.
Just like you I've been struggling in getting and finding my place in this world in what should I be doing with my life; in making the right amount of money that I could sustain my needs, or wants; in wanting to have savings, emergency funds and all that. I've been there and is still aiming that fulfilling life that is financially free which means I don't have to worry about not being able to buy necessities, not worried in case there's emergency, I could buy things that I want, can travel anywhere I wanted, in short, free of all worries about financial issues.
Way back 2016 when I started this blog I’ve written my current mindset, At that time I was struggling to find the right job. Now it's 2019, many things happened. I've had that mind set before that after graduating College things will get easy. But, in reality things have become more challenging and more responsibilities arrive as we get older. All my idealistic view in life is constantly being challenged by reality. Damn life is hard and it won't get easy ever!! You just learn how to deal with problems better overtime, and manage to enjoy life inspite of adversities.
What really happens after you graduate or when you hit adulthood? Usually people finish College by the age of 19 or 20? In my case since I've got a very complicated life I managed to finish my degree at 23. Even though I finished late, my resume is already filled with many job experiences since I've started working when I was 18 and have self supported for some years till I graduated.
One thing I recommend to college students out there. Try working inside your University or College, for example student assistants, or try apprenticeship outside campus. It is a good training ground plus you earn extra money. Whether you're rich or poor, doing a side job when possible is a good way of training yourself early so when you graduate and enter the work life you're already aware of some things and has more edge compared to fresh grads who doesn't have any work experience. You get to be exposed and learn work ethics, time management, multi-tasking and many more. Plus it's an extra point when you're job searching in the future.
Companies like good references. Just make sure you did well on your job so that you could gain good references like your boss, supervisors and mentors. That's what I did when I was in college. I worked as a technical support representative when I only have few subjects per semester. It worked on me since I was irregular 'coz I was a transferee. If I have more units and working in BPO is impossible, I worked as a student assistant in our College. If you're a regular student and have no time then maybe you could do summer jobs. There are tons of summer job's that you could apply to you just have to know where to find them and which one suits you.
Whether you've got good grades, many job experiences, good references, you’re rich or poor; you've graduated from a prestigious Universty; you're a cumlaude, magna cumlaude or just a regular student who managed to pass every subject. There is no guarantee if your life will go really well, if you'd get the perfect job, or be driving your first car after few years of working, or your bank account is filled as well as your passport for you are well travelled. You wish!! Many are lucky to have achieved these easily but in reality a lot of adults are still lost and unfullfilled even if they did great in College or have resources like good family background or money.
Life is hard and will still be that way no matter what your age is. But adulthood is a very important stage in your life. This is the time where we get to know who we are and what we are capable of doing or making out of our own abilities. This is the time where you should be most aware of what is happening or has to happen in your life; where you start being really in control with your life and involved in growing yourself. It's the time of making many right choices and mistakes.
DO NOT BE AFRAID OF MAKING MISTAKES. Whether you like it or not, when you're in your 20’s you're still a novice in life. Even old people make mistakes. Don't over estimate yourself. You can be confident but thinking that you know a lot about life YOU'RE WRONG. My older brother says even if we've reached 30 we're still babies. I mean I totally agree and and it. I'm almost 30 and yet I still cry and whine like a baby. In your 20’s it's the time where you try a lot of things and learn from a lot of mistakes. Make yourself a sponge and absorb knowledge from people and experiences. Be curious and be willing to be taught. It's not your time to be the teacher generation yet. You'll get there! For now learn in life like a child.
You DO NOT STOP trying and searching for the better things you could do with your life.
You just have to keep doing things to know what suits you.
If you think you're stressed, tired, fatigued, or burnedout TAKE A REST but not for life or till the end of time. I mean there are some people I know who've been jobless and have stopped looking for jobs or things to do. For years and years they've just settled in what they think are safe or comfortable. Not searching for jobs, not honing their capabilities, or not finding out things that they may be good at. And these people I know have real talents and potential in being great at something.
Do Wise Networking. People Networking. How? Just get connected to good, thriving and productive people. Your circle contributes to your way of life and influence you somehow, and good connections (network) means good influence. If you're jobless then get associated with people who could help you find a job. And with networking, one is not enough. The bigger your circle and the better these people are the better you are in making right decisions since you've got role models and they will keep you motivated if you have a good attitude towards other people's success and hard work. You can still be friends with your jobless friends but if they’ve got bad habits and attitude about making a living then it's about time you change your circle of friends 'coz let's get real. Not all your life you're young and have to be supported financially by your parents or relatives. We've each got capabilities and we live our own lives. Being dependent to anyone whose already working hard for themselves and yet you want to ride on their back so you're comfortable and have no worries. Millionares don't get to live with comfort without working hard.
Do brainstorming with your friends or people network. You're lucky if your friends or peers are always available when you need them. Everyone needs someone elses insight, advice, objective criticsm or an acknowledgement sometimes and friends play the biggest role when it comes to these things.
Note your mistakes or moments of IRRESPONSIBILITIES. When you're woke or aware of the sh*ts that you have done or making with your life you are much careful and wise. Better if you have a journal or records. Knowing the things you didn’t do or have failed to do on certain events makes you do better next time or would be much responsible. It's a good practice since you get to reflect and gets better at making objective criticisms about yourself.
Learn from your mistakes and take charge in your life. Humbling yourself when things go wrong in your life and admitting that you make mistakes makes you a better human. Some people are so irresponsible and yet they don't admit that they're to blame much worst they point fingers not realizing that they are not gonna change or learn doing that. When you think you don't do anything wrong or thinks it's always someone elses fault that you are miserable, you get to live in your own fantasy and won't go anywhere but stuck in there. You're in charge with your life. You make your own mistakes whether people do something wrong towards you, You're still in control on how to act or think. Even if people fail to do things for you it is you who could fulfill and do things for yourself. It's your life make it or break it it's your choice.
Check your attitude about all aspect of life. Our mindset lead our lives. If you know how you tend to think about things and people around you whether if you're positive, negative, objective, self centered or empathetic - you'll know what aspects in your way of thinking has to be improved or lessened. Some people just don't really care and that's the reason life gets harder and unimproving. Successful people master the ability of managing all aspects in their life: social, financial, education, profession, health, spiritual and leisure. Do you know these aspects in your life that you SHOULD be taking care of? What are your attitude about it? Do you even mind about these? If not then you should start doing so.
Keep Going!! Inspite of difficulties. Just live. It's not an option to give your life. I mean it's easier if we just don't care or just exist in this world doing nothing but breathe, eat and sleep. I know it's your life and that's how you want to live. But that's not living. God has given us a lot of abilities and opportunities so we could use, share and explore it. The world is so big and beautiful and we're suppose to be enjoying it. Living is hard work don't be lazy and coward. If you're stuck in poverty, cruelty, or misery then get out of it. There are things that you can't do but there are MANY things YOU CAN DO. Focus on that and find out more of the things you could able to do. An NBA basketball player wouldn’t know they're good at basketball if they didn't play it. Play the game. The game of life. Throw yourself out there. There are better things outside your box.
I wish you luck and God bless you!!
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