Monday, June 27, 2016

You Have To Start Doing What You Love

A lot of ideas are popping in my head. It's always like this, specially if there is something that I'm very excited or interested with. I find it hard to sleep since my head is really loud and crazy. Images, topics, memories, everything passes through so fast and I think it affected my dream last night. It's great really but I just let it go. I've read an article one time, and it says that if there is something that you've thought and you think it is something good or interesting, you should write it down. I didn't wrote it though. Why? Well got cocky again I guess. I just know that there will always be something interesting that will pop in my head so I didn't bother getting up on my bed just to write those ideas.

I've always wanted to do this, blogging and stuff, like what I said in my first blog you think your life is meaningless and has no direction. Since I was young I tend to write things down. I first made a scrapbook/journal when I was in first year high school. Wrote things about my classmates, experiences, teachers, frustrations, having my first boyfriend and stuff; pretty much about everything. A lot of momento's were also sticked on it (pictures, candy wrappers from special friends, letters, roses, etc.) 

Don't really know when I started liking to write. I love to read, and I don't know if  consequently you should love writing also. In my case, my love of discovering things through reading influenced my writing abilities. When I was in junior and senior high school my teachers let me compete in essay writing at school and I usually win. Never tried to write school newspaper though. It would have been great if I did, my writing skills could have been better since there will be a lot of practicing plus there would be mentors and advisers. 

IF YOU ARE GOOD AT SOMETHING YOU SHOULD FOCUS ON IT AND BE GOOD AT IT.

Professionals say when you're good at something you should not do it for free. During high school I made school projects for my classmates or schoolmates. Earned a lot from those. Thankfully, my brother gave me a computer and a printer, those were utilized pretty well. This is an instance of using your talent practically. Gained a lot from this. My typing skills improved a lot, got better in problem solving, become more creative in making projects, earned extra money, gained a lot of friends and many more. Didn't really thought of my writing skills seriously that time. For me though writing is essential, since I release stress through writing. Even my college major isn't journalism or any course related to writing. Psychology requires good writing ability though since we have to write a lot of research and psychological interpretations so I think I was able to enhance my writing skills also.

LISTEN TO CRITICISMS AND COMPLIMENTS. BOTH ARE HELPFUL

Most of the time I was showered with compliments and adorations. My mom made it a habit to brag how pretty I am when I was a kid, how smart I am; that I started reading newspapers when I was 2 or 3 years old, that I'm gifted with a beautiful voice then she will make me sing in front of those people. Didn't help on getting rid of my stage fright though. Boosted my ego a lot and sometimes it may have affected how I take criticsms. Sometimes, when I felt offended or bothered by criticsms I tend to keep things to myself that I began to torture myself for not doing well. It shouldn't be like that. Criticsm are good to take specially if they are from knowledgeable people. I value those criticsms, those from I know really knows stuffs. It really depends on how you take things. For an instance there is really a bad comment about your work if you take it in a positive way like maybe there is something that you need to improve or change you will re-evaluate yoursel, it's either you learn from it or realize that you made a good job proving those criticsms to be untrue. 

YOU HAVE TO ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR SKILLS

Being humble is good but I think it's not for yourself though its for the others. You humble yourself to make other people like you. Who would love to hear a conceited person for a long time. Everyone would get annoyed hearing endless self praises and all those stuff they're good at. I didn't mean it you do it in that extent. What I do for example is I acknowledge that I really have a good voice. Since according to statistics of those people who believes that I do is an evidence that I am a good singer. This happens when I hear compliments well. But of course you have to corellate everything to your honest evaluation to make it credible. But believing in yourself even if you are not that good helps your motivation and drive to be better in what you love to do.

JUST KEEP DOING WHAT YOU LOVE. PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT INDEED

A beautiful filipina actress +Anne Curtis-Smith  is an example. At first music seems to hate her when she tries to sing. Overtime, after practicing a lot and doing voice lessons and stuff now she's doing a lot of concerts, made an album and if I hear her sing I believe she's pretty good at it already. She improved a lot. Anyone can do that. Even my older sister, she's really out of tune when she was younger but after voice trainings her singing skills got superb. Learn new things about what you love to do. Just like in a relationship you have to keep learning things about your partner to get a good connection for a better relationship. Pulled that out deep ^_^ (malalim na hugot).

IF YOU'RE GOOD AT SOMETHING. SHARE IT

That's what I am doing right now. ;) This is very long I don't know If you will have patience to read all this but thank you if you did. Lots of Love.

Sunday, June 26, 2016

You Think Your Life is Meaningless and has no Direction Read this

As always, I still can't get out of in limbo state. My job applications as a Human Resources staff hasn't been answered yet. I am already at the age of getting really pissed off for not having a stable career, bank savings, properties, and all those stuff that perfect the Maslow's hierarchy of need triangle. All I have is an almost perfect relationship with my boyfriend of 10 years, my optimism and a lot of insights about life and people.

Trying to live is not hard. But doing something with purpose or finding something meaningful to do is sometimes hard. Why? Because we don't know what we want. We sometimes do not know how to do it specially if there is no one to teach how. It is good when you have a support system like your parents, older siblings or older people in the family. It is easier most of the time, you have someone to ask. So if you have people like that in your life and you are really close to them and they are really knowledgeable make use of them well. In my case, well I have these kind of people physically but I am not close to them. I want to be close to them but it just hard to do it. It's complicated. Since I don't have that kind of support system I READ. I READ A LOT. Books, Articles or Blogs. Anything as long as it helps my intellect, psychological state and character. If I get lucky I get to hear helpful advices from knowledgeable people. (I nearly burnt our rice. I was cooking while writing this blog ^_^)

I have friends but since I have a personality of not wanting to be a nuisance, I listen to their problems more than me asking for their help. But it won't hurt to ask peoples help once in a while. 

If you go to church and have a very nice spiritual adviser, you are really blessed. I have a christian friend, I attend their fellowship once in a while and it feels good. She's a good influence and also gives me tips regarding my career. We need this kind of people in our lives to somehow find our direction, our purpose, our meaning; God, the Bible, good leaders in your church and those spiritual people. I don't believe in religion but we need good religion to have good spiritual people in our lives.

Somehow I think I know now what I really want to do with my life. To give off help. To be someone that someone needs when they need one. Not in any way but in a way that I can. I know how it feels when you have no one and it somehow fades all those kind of memories when I fulfill those kind of things.

Attitude really shapes your life. Having good disposition will lead you to live in a positive way; You will attract good people that will be helpful in your discovery of fullfillness and it will be easier to face challenges in our lives if your mind is filled with positivity. Life becomes meaningless when we loose our hope, when we give up after trying, when we do not stand after stumbling and all those stuff. Good attitude results to good behavior which leds to good results.

Lately, I was able to keep myself preoccupied with books, movies, articles in the internet, or with anything. I hate doing nothing. It concerns me that I become dumb if I don't feed my mind. Idleness leads to foolishness. 

This time I just got blank looking at my computer with a question in my head "what should I do now?". I want to do something and I am just staring at google. then I typed "what should I do when I don't have a job" A lot of articles appeared. I clicked the first one and read it, then it led me here. Now I am happily writing my first blog.

I've always wanted to write a blog. Thanks to +Penelope Trunk I am able to start doing it. If you want to start blogging and don't know how to do it, just read her blog post about the easiest instructions on how to create one. It will help you a lot. Resultingly, here I am writing this.

I am always good at listening and giving advices. It is not counseling since 
I am not a professional counselor yet. I hope I get to converse with a lot of people through writing and help them in a way that I can,like how I give advices to those people who have always been seeking my advice. Hopefully through my blog I can help people.

Finally I have started my blog! Still got a long way to go but for now eto na muna. Will do a lot of practicing for now. Tata!