Purpose Driven Life (CHAPTER 2) Blog Writers Journal

My life, If I am still what I used to be, would’ve wished to not have the life that I’ve had growing up. I wish I wasn’t a symbol of pain, hatred, resentment, a mistake. I have wished for many times to have never been born and to suffer and carry on my shoulders all the consequences of a mistake that my parents have made. Being a collateral, a sacrifice to console the hearts of those people who’ve been hurt, broken and hearts filled with hate- I had to receive everything to the point of getting tired and just wanting to just die and to stop all the sufferings, depression, anxieties, self pities, over flowing fear of many things and to just rest, to go home. Whenever I get happy people seem to hate it that they   try to take it away. People connived to bad mouth me out of their own fear and hurt that has been instilled to their being coz’ nobody has thought them otherwise. I understand their pain and I hope I was able to lessen their pain knowing that I am suffering too, alone at most: before when I didn't understand everything yet, when I still cannot accept what God want for myself. There are many things that I have struggled to accept before. But through God and His love and grace I was saved and is still being saved to date. This faith I have was instilled to me by God and the people He’d sent, so strong that even if I have gone through worst(even now I am still wounded and still lick my wounds that easily aches anytime of the day) I still have the reason to smile, to love someone so strong that I am willing to withstand anything just to protect and care for them; to feel for those who’re hurt, in need, and are broken; to console a person who runs to me and confides and in need of a shoulder, a helping hand or an ear that will listen, or a voice to be heard of the things that needed to be heard. I have come to realise all the things I am capable of doing, and all of these are from the Father.

I may be impatient, I may curse and fail to shut my mouth to stop saying poisonous truths, I may act hypocritical and dogmatic sometimes- this we’re all wired perfectly by God that through these imperfections I learn my lessons the hard way. No matter how hard the process God never fails to teach me and to keep me as a close student willing to be taught and sharpened to be better every time. I don’t hate the people who’ve done me wrong. Sometimes I feel sorry for most of us coz’ we’re all victims and lost children of God. I just wish that they also find their way to Him and to stop wandering far from Him. Hate is not worth it. So is anger, revenge, jealousy, bitterness, selfishness, cruelty and the likes. I hope we do not commit the same mistakes of the people who’ve caused us a lot of pain and suffering. God may have planned everything but let us pray and listen to Him very well to live a purposeful life that glorifies and delights our Lord God.

Thank you and God bless.

Purpose Driven Life Daily Journal (Blog Writers Perspective)

Have you ever tried reading Rick Warrens’ Purpose Driven Life? Have you tried many times and failed to finish it many times? This book has been introduced to me when I was still in high school. I have a hard bound copy it was beautiful all the things written to it we’re eye-opening and yet I failed to finish it for many times. For a book lover like me I did felt giddy with the smell of a books page. If I could remember I was excited the first time that I’ve received this book. It’s a wish granted and I’ve always had this feeling of wanting to know more about God and to gain more wisdom. But still those weren’t enough, I got distracted by life and failed to finish it every-time.

I am curious about the people who’re able to finish the book. What have they become after? Did they change even if being faithful to God and the ministry is extremely hard? I am very curious. (Hoping to talk to you if you we’re able to finish this book.) When I first got it I was excited to finish every reading even the one for the next day, but that cannot be for it is strictly 1 chapter per day. Back then I didn’t have someone to talk to about it. This time a friend, a sister, a very talented christian leader whose been renewed(far greater than she was before) started reading and invited me to read with her. I was amazed at how great she have become and I could really see that BIG change that wasn’t there before. She’s a really close friend for more than a decade that is why I have seen all the changes in her being as a christian leader, a person, a partner and a friend.

Already on my 6th day of reading PDL and I’ve already missed 1 day this shouldn’t be like that and I wanted to really commit to it. I’ve decided to write every day here on my blog to share this journey of 40 Chapters and 40 Days of reading PDL. Hope to read with you and collaborate with someone interested in finding out what is a Purposeful Driven Life.

Why did I decided to read it again? It was actually an answered prayer. Days before I started reading the book I was questioning my life purpose again. I have stopped doing my blogs and uploading videos on my youtube channel for more than 2 weeks now and I was questioning what should I do with my career path. I was writing in my journal, I prayed and wanted to know for I am starting to feel lost again and questions what I should be doing with my life feeling all the pressure from all the people who wanted us to start and to do something to earn a living. We are currently job seeking in a foreign country, me and my husband. For me this time would really serve as the biggest and most important choice that I would ever have to take in terms of my career and for me and my husband. I didn’t want to be distracted by what other people think, for this is for us and this is my life and I want to do something that would really serve something relevant or important to God. It’s not an excuse, I really want to start earning a living but I have to make a good choice that I wouldn’t regret in the future. I have doubts about myself if I’d be able to do something good or right but I just have to rely on God in this chapter of my life. Suddenly, this came. Me and my friend we’re messaging and was able to talk about life purpose. It so happens that she’s been reading the book for 11 days already. If I could remember I was only able to read till chapter 6 or 7, whenever I am reading each chapter now I was reminiscing how I have understood and have changed before during the first trials of reading it.

Now I’ll start sharing my thoughts and learning with every chapter.

CHAPTER 1 

Now, I am really selfish and self-centred. That’s what I have learned from this chapter. You see I am an illegitimate child. My parents are separated. I’ve been a sheltered kid, the youngest, the favourite. I have experienced a lot of trauma, rejection, disappointments, malicious attacks and financial problems have started arising when I was about to finish High School. I’m just summarising everything but If I’m gonna share my life 1 book wouldn’t be enough. All the things I’ve gone through has made me depressive, anxious and, suicidal at some point of my life. It’s not something I could boast but I am still here fighting everyday battles because of God. Overtime, I have changed. Growing with God is better than trying to figure out things on your own. Check this blog that I have written last time. This has been a product of God. If it wasn’t for Him I won’t be able to share this learnings and perspectives in life. My efforts in living a purposeful driven life is going to be more focused and guided now that I have this book and the people who’re gonna be part of this journey and of course with God. Life is distracting. All our wants and needs here on earth are distracting us on what is really important. We are created for God and nothing else. I was so focused on myself and have felt that since I was hurt and broken I am entitled to receive whatever I want, to have an easy and good life after all the things I have gone through and is going through. I have learned that my life has been a struggle a learning a transformation and a survival because of God’s love. Through this christian friend I was able to forgive my father whom I have loathed when I was still a juvenile teenager. Through God who’ve made a solid friendship with her I am blessed to be reading this book again and realising how blessed I am with all the hardships and all the things I am going through right now. It is hard but it is worth it.

Hope to see you on the next chapter. Please do comment here or message me on my facebook page Mind it Now if you want to share your own journey with God and life problems. I’m ready to listen.

Thank you for reading! God bless! 😘😘😘

Stressed, Burned Out or Demotivated. Already Being Toxic. This is for you.

Life!! Tough right?! Imagine, every day you wake up there are a lot of things to do whether you’re an employee, a house-wife/husband, a business owner, a student or just anyone. You’re bombarded with tasks, responsibilities, deadlines, personal/work issues, and other aspects of your life. Wish you could just run away from everything right? You should take that badly needed break! Don’t postpone it. Just take a break. Breathe. When life just seems so overwhelming, go ahead make time for relaxation and life detox. It’s gonna be worth it.

In order for us to keep going in this life, there are various things that we could do to refuel, to get away from stress, pressure, and problems. There’s nothing wrong with taking a rest if you’re tired. Do you need a change from your life or your routines? Or You love your job or what you’re doing but you just really need a break and to get away from the hustle bustles? 

You know life is just simple. Each day you wake up, some people just know what to do with their lives. Everything is planned, into place. Sometimes things work out for them sometimes it doesn't. To some people, everything is just unclear every time they make decisions they have to validate or ask for guidance to anyone they really rely on. And when that person is not available they freak out or just didn't want to make decisions. Life is about making bad and good decisions every day and no matter what the outcome you just got to wake up every day and make that unique imprint in this world.

You can make bad decisions. IT IS FINE. As long as you don't hurt or kill anyone intentionally. We're all HUMAN. Humans are not GOD. We are made to be imperfect. We cannot outshine that DIVINE BEING. Being imperfect is okay because you're just being human. Things only get worse if you justify yourself making bad things and say "Hey! I'm just human. I'm not perfect" and feel fine doing things that aren't acceptable. Work on yourself to be a good person, and to be better than what you are yesterday. You can check this post. It is okay to know that you're imperfect and feel motivated to try again the next day if today or yesterday has been really bad, but not okay if you do wrong and make it as an excuse.

Tomorrow you'll be bigger, wiser, kinder; just better. It takes a lot of your work and you not giving up. Who else can get you through with this life but you. We're all gonna die someday and no one else could stop it. When your time is over, THE END. Today you're still here being the person that you are. You might be so stressed out right now, depressed, demotivated, angry, fed up, burn out. But hey! You're not the only one! I get through that too, and those other guys you see and walk in your life. Life is hard. Yeah really hard to accept sometimes, but that's just how it is and we just gotta suck it up and just wing it.

Happiness is a choice. This is repetitive but really just choose happiness. Stop being angry, jealous, hypocrite, selfish, whiney, or simply JUST STOP BEING A TOXIC. Do you know why you are not happy? It's because of you always looking at what others have and not being grateful for what you have. Stop making excuses and blaming others that you are miserable and unhappy. You chose to feel that way, they didn't. As if people could keep you stuck in a box of misery, pain or loneliness. IT IS ALL YOU.

Working hard pays off. In whatever aspect of your life. If you put passion in everything, with love and hard work someday it'll just pay off. And it will just blow your mind and fill you with so much pride and happiness coz' it was all your hard work. YOU made that happen. YOU didn't stop. Only then you'll know, it is right "All my hard works really would pay off!"

Celebrate everything that needs to be celebrated. Life is too short. Who cares if you're celebrating coz' you finally perfected that sunny side up that you always mess up or burn. No matter how small it is. If you think you had many difficulties with something and finally perfected it, that deserves a big celebration of course. But you don't need to spend a lot of money on celebrating though. You can maybe make every person you love you're perfected sunny side up and share how you've really worked hard on perfecting it. Y'all know what I mean. Being proud of your hard works and feeling satisfied with your achievements is like a fuel to do something better. You might now know tomorrow you're already perfecting eggs benedict or something. HAHA.

Focus on your life. Stop obsessing about other peoples lives. You've got a tough life that needs full attention. You want to help other people or you just wanna meddle with anyone's business? There's a big difference there. If you're someone whose life is really perfect and happiness and success are overflowing, yes maybe then you could help others by teaching them what you did or how you've made through it. But if you're someone who's got a lot of self issues and your life doesn't have direction or if you can't even make things work for you, your partner or your family. DUDE! Focus! Fix yourself first. Look deeply inside you first and see what's going on with you and work on how you're gonna get through your circumstance or bad decisions. 

Celebrate the success of those people who've worked hard on themselves or their lives. Let people shine. Let people wear their own crowns. Stop blowing on someone's light. Everyone gets through tough times. You won't ever know how each person tries to stand up each and every time they fall. No matter how they are as a person. If they tick you off, or you feel violated by some people: just walk away or distance yourself. Plants and grass can't be in the same pot or else either one will have to die or sucked up. Choose what is good for you. If you're becoming toxic when you're around people who make you one, leave them. The world will be better with less toxic people. Don't add up to those populations. Choose to be the person who makes the world better. When you choose to be happy for someone you become happy too. I mean it has to be genuine. You really have to feel happy for them and not just think okay I'll be happy for them.

You'll only appreciate each person's beauty or shine if you're happy about yours. You're a beautiful person. Believe that you are. Why? It is just how you are made. You are already made beautiful. Embrace all that you are, flaws and all. Like I said you're only human, you might be flawed but you're unique and that is the beauty of it. If you try hard to do these things and make a lot of reflections about yourself you'd really go far in making a better life. Just keep going. Life is beautiful. Let's all enjoy this short life and be someone who'll make a good imprint in this world.

THANKS FOR READING AND GOD BLESS EVERYONE!! XOXO

Good Things Comes to Those Who Don’t Stop Working on Theirselves

Woah!! Adulting!! Still hanging in there?! Lol. Adulting is the most difficult thing to accept and deal with specially when you’re just not ready with all the things that comes with it: bills, career, relationships, finances, marriage, parenting, leisure, etc. etc. 

I’m turning 30 this year my gosh but I still feel like I’m just 18. Still crying like a baby and always running to my sister or my husbands comfort when I feel like life is just getting too much for me to handle. But things have been different these days. It’s quite easy for me to get out of being stressed, depressed or anxious compared years ago when I’m still hanging onto toxic relationships (not my love-life) and hang ups that I couldn’t really fully accept or forget. God has been really good to me. For real!! I’m reluctant to post my life story here. It’s still on my pending posts and I’m just really anxious and worried that I might impact others negatively. Specially those who’re involved. That is the hardest part of being anxious and conscientious. I’ve been preaching a lot about not minding about people’s opinion but I myself is anxious about it when it comes to opening up about my past and my life now. I don’t really want to harm anyone. But I know God has made my life as it is for a reason, and that is inspiring those who’ve gone through the same experience or anyone who’d relate and connect to it. 

Creating a blog and starting vlogging is Gods gift I know. For a hermit and introverted person like me, opening up to the public would be the last thing I would ever do but my heart keeps on getting me into troubles (😂 Just Kidding). My heart just keep longing for release and me writing my own book (in Gods perfect time and with His grace) is a dream that I really want to fulfil and by doing these two it may happen in the near future. I’m not in a hurry, there’s always a perfect time for everything and I have to gain more experience in writing and vlogging. Things will just come into place.

Lately things have been extremely challenging and tiring with my work. I’m currently working as a nanny of a 1 year old baby boy here in Hong Kong and boy believe me I didn’t know either that I’d last this long. I’ve only been here for 10 months and these months were really challenging but exciting. I’ve been a sheltered kid somehow, I’ve no children yet and the only child care experience that I’ve had my entire life was just taking care of my nieces/nephews and my dogs(I don’t know if this counts😂) and doing some community programs. I was referred by my sister that’s why I got the job. You can imagine the level of difficulties and adjustments I have gone through when I got here. I love the baby for I acted as the second mother to him and I consider him like my firstborn. With this experience, my respect to moms and domestic helpers is much much higher than before. This was a sudden change in my life that has only been decided for a few days with a lot of contemplations and talks with my husband and father. I believe that opportunities shouldn’t be wasted that’s why I’ve decided right away but I had to consider what my husband has to say. We we’re reluctant to be separated so instantly for we just got married for almost a year when I’ve heard about it. We prayed for it and walla Hong Kong life it is. This is just a milestone for me, I really intended to migrate in Canada after this coz’ it’s easier when you get a work experience here in Hong Kong specifically those who take care of babies, children or elderlies. I’d post a more detailed story about this next time.

So these are the thoughts I want to impart on this post:

Life is hard to everyone. Nobody gets a life who doesn’t have a mishap. Everyone go through bad times coz’ it’s just how life is. Being an illegitimate child, youngest and only child of my mom and Dad (but I have other siblings on both sides) you could imagine how complicated my life is. My situation though didn’t hinder me to do the best that I can to be the best version of myself. I’ve gone through a lot of evolutions, rebuilding, healing, acceptance, transformations and the likes; and I still am. Right now I know, so far I am the best version of what I am. This didn’t happen overnight tho. Even now I still learn new things about myself, good and bad; still a work in progress.

I believe that in able for people to change the world one should know who they are first so they would know how to change for the better then make a change in the world. This was one of my reasons why I took up Psychology. I wanted to know how to deal with the things I’m going through and to help others whose going through miseries; in forgetting traumatic experiences, getting over depressions, anxiety or any emotional baggages that needs to be released. Beforehand I just get by difficult times through praying, writing, hanging out with friends that keeps me from succumbing to total despair specially when I was in juvenile and suicidal stage during my teenage years, and through my Mothers’ loving comfort and her inspiring being. The latter has been my driving force and God. Until she passed away so sudden. Even though she’d been fighting emphysema for 5 years, her death for me is still hard to accept. God knows how I am still trying to accept her untimely death. Her life could have been longer (Sorry, it’s still hard)............ She kept me going when I just wanted to give up. My best friend to ex boyfriend and now husband has a big role on my fights in this life, He kept me from doing bad things to myself. I’ve treated him like a disposable for a very long time and yet he never gave up on me. When I finally believed that He’s not like my Father or will ever be, that’s when I’ve decided to marry Him. We we’re then on our 12th year. Now it’s almost our 2nd year wedding anniversary; things are still complicated, tough, and challenging but life has been better with him. I know I am broken, I was angry and still get angry sometimes (with people and the things I have to go through), I know I’ve come a long way, I know I’ve been bad and now is getting better coz’ I’ve tried and still try hard to be better in spite of all the hardships and traumas and unending self healing. I’m this tough because I’ve gone through a lot of sh*ts in life.

Life hurdles won’t end. Don’t ever wait for that to happen. This is gonna be a cliche, but just keep going life won’t get easy, you’ll just get stronger. Being in that situation like you keep on asking “why does it always happen to me?”, “why me?”, “ why my life is so unfair?”, or say “I can’t do this anymore”, “I want to die!!!!!” Life is tough indeed and it’s really tiring when you feel like things aren’t changing or you’re like you keep going in circles and feeling stuck, tired and hopeless. You just really have to get through it over and over again. You can’t stop fighting. Your life is worth fighting for. Just live and explore yourself and the world. Experience all the good things life could offer.

There’s nobody limiting you but you. No one’s gonna save you but you, life doesn’t owe you anything to make things easy for you or to give whatever you want. God is with you but you have to do things for yourself. Your life is your responsibility next is your spouses’, children and parents. If you can’t be responsible for yourself, for sure you can’t  be responsible with others.

Some were born to live a complicated and difficult life without a choice, some go through it because of their own doing. There are things that we can control and not. Do not try to control the things you know you can’t. Ourselves, we’ve got a total control. So focus on yourself and making better choices. If you’re in a bad circumstance and you just feel like you’re unhappy and not growing then get out of there. Be accountable of your life. No circumstance can hold you back. Nothing holds you back but you.  

You are not alone. There are people out there who goes through difficult times. Different story but same cries and sentiments. I don’t know, in a way this helped me accept things not in a way like I’m thankful coz’ I’m not the only one miserable. It consoled me that even though some go through worst they’re still there living and trying even things are just hard and overwhelming. You can do that too. Just don’t give up. Life is sweet after you overcome your mountains.

Acceptance is not an easy process. It’s hard to forget, to overcome trauma, to get out of depression or anxiety or stress so easily.  Others have to undergo therapy, some needed to take medicines to just get by and live through it. Acceptance takes a lot of your effort. If you have supportive and healing people around you then you’re blessed, but even if you don’t have one what’s important is you have you. Change will only happen if you’re gonna make continuous effort to change. Eventually you’ll get better and more stronger.

Life is good. The world is big. There are more people out there that are worth to meet. You have little but enough time to experience a lot of good things, you just have to get out of there and look for it. There are a lot of ways to make things work for you. Do not limit yourself in thinking you can’t or you don’t have money or you don’t have time. Excuses won’t help you. Time is gold make use of it wisely. You’ll never know maybe in an hour or tonight you’re gone but if you take each day as if it’s the last you’ll have no regrets.

Don’t settle for less. Work, love life, friendships, religion or any relationships; if it doesn’t make you grow for the better or make you happy, leave it. Invest yourself, your time, effort and energy to something that’ll make you feel important, useful, loved or nurtured. While you’re still breathing we still have enough time. Don’t worry of not getting the right ones in all facets of your life. While you’re in a pursuit of greatness and happiness all good things will come along: career, partner, friends, religion, finance, etc. You might feel stuck then check out this article I’ve posted before.

You’re never too old or too young to reach your dreams or goals or to travel. Make things work in your favour. When I was young even though I couldn’t travel because I don’t have the money for that, so I’ve attended community programs and volunteered on outreach programs and demographic surveys during summer vacations. I was a scholar of a Politician during College and this comes with a lot of opportunities and responsibilities it made my younger years a lot more exciting and worthwhile. Now that I’m turning 30 people worry that I’m still unstable and don’t have a child yet. I’ve set my goals and priorities already and there are things that I need to postpone and to sacrifice for the meantime. Things has been extra difficult for me coz’ I don’t really have that support system like others have. I have to work for everything that I have and that’s just fine with me. I’m awesome in so many ways 😂 (it’s confidence not cockiness) and being independent is one. So, regarding with age it’s just a number, your willingness and hunger of exploring and doing important things in this world is the thing that matters. Work your way through things in your own way. Opportunities come for a reason. Just try everything you can.

There are a lot more things I want to share but I think these things are enough for now. Please check out my youtube channel Pinky Barr enjoy and thanks for reading this blog. God bless!

You’re in your mid-twenties or late-twenties and still feel lost and unfullfilled?Read This.

Are you feeling frustrated, demotivated and feeling left behind? You see your friends, classmates in college or elementary and anyone your age who have stable jobs, travelling a lot, buying cars, getting married and stuff. You question yourself why you're still unfullfilled, don't know what to do with life, still unsure with your job, constantly leave work for another or currently unemployed. DO NOT GET ALARMED. Chill! You may seem slow in fulfilling your life but you'll get there.

What does fulfillment mean? It may differ to anyone. One person might feel fulfilled if they have lots of money, have a high paying job; own a car, a house, or a business; has travelled the whole world, have settled down. Another might feel fulfilled if they've crossed out everything on their bucket list.

Just like you I've been struggling in getting and finding my place in this world in what should I be doing with my life; in making the right amount of money that I could sustain my needs, or wants; in wanting to have savings, emergency funds and all that. I've been there and is still aiming that fulfilling life that is financially free which means I don't have to worry about not being able to buy necessities, not worried in case there's emergency, I could buy things that I want, can travel anywhere I wanted, in short, free of all worries about financial issues.

Way back 2016 when I started this blog I’ve written my current mindset, At that time I was struggling to find the right job. Now it's 2019, many things happened. I've had that mind set before that after graduating College things will get easy. But, in reality things have become more challenging and more responsibilities arrive as we get older. All my idealistic view in life is constantly being challenged by reality. Damn life is hard and it won't get easy ever!! You just learn how to deal with problems better overtime, and manage to enjoy life inspite of adversities.

What really happens after you graduate or when you hit adulthood? Usually people finish College by the age of 19 or 20? In my case since I've got a very complicated life I managed to finish my degree at 23. Even though I finished late, my resume is already filled with many job experiences since I've started working when I was 18 and have self supported for some years till I graduated.

One thing I recommend to college students out there. Try working inside your University or College, for example student assistants, or try apprenticeship outside campus. It is a good training ground plus you earn extra money. Whether you're rich or poor, doing a side job when possible is a good way of training yourself early so when you graduate and enter the work life you're already aware of some things and has more edge compared to fresh grads who doesn't have any work experience. You get to be exposed and learn work ethics, time management, multi-tasking and many more. Plus it's an extra point when you're job searching in the future.

Companies like good references. Just make sure you did well on your job so that you could gain good references like your boss, supervisors and mentors. That's what I did when I was in college. I worked as a technical support representative when I only have few subjects per semester. It worked on me since I was irregular 'coz I was a transferee. If I have more units and working in BPO is impossible, I worked as a student assistant in our College. If you're a regular student and have no time then maybe you could do summer jobs. There are tons of summer job's that you could apply to you just have to know where to find them and which one suits you.

Whether you've got good grades, many job experiences, good references, you’re rich or poor; you've graduated from a prestigious Universty; you're a cumlaude, magna cumlaude or just a regular student who managed to pass every subject. There is no guarantee if your life will go really well, if you'd get the perfect job, or be driving your first car after few years of working, or your bank account is filled as well as your passport for you are well travelled. You wish!! Many are lucky to have achieved these easily but in reality a lot of adults are still lost and unfullfilled even if they did great in College or have resources like good family background or money.

Life is hard and will still be that way no matter what your age is. But adulthood is a very important stage in your life. This is the time where we get to know who we are and what we are capable of doing or making out of our own abilities. This is the time where you should be most aware of what is happening or has to happen in your life; where you start being really in control with your life and involved in growing yourself. It's the time of making many right choices and mistakes.

DO NOT BE AFRAID OF MAKING MISTAKES. Whether you like it or not, when you're in your 20’s you're still a novice in life. Even old people make mistakes. Don't over estimate yourself. You can be confident but thinking that you know a lot about life YOU'RE WRONG. My older brother says even if we've reached 30 we're still babies. I mean I totally agree and and it. I'm almost 30 and yet I still cry and whine like a baby. In your 20’s it's the time where you try a lot of things and learn from a lot of mistakes.  Make yourself a sponge and absorb knowledge from people and experiences. Be curious and be willing to be taught. It's not your time to be the teacher generation yet. You'll get there! For now learn in life like a child.

You DO NOT STOP trying and searching for the better things you could do with your life.
You just have to keep doing things to know what suits you.
If you think you're stressed, tired, fatigued, or burnedout  TAKE A REST but not for life or till the end of time. I mean there are some people I know who've been jobless and have stopped looking for jobs or things to do. For years and years they've just settled in what they think are safe or comfortable. Not searching for jobs, not honing their capabilities, or not finding out things that they may be good at. And these people I know have real talents and potential in being great at something.

Do Wise Networking. People Networking. How? Just get connected to good, thriving and productive people. Your circle contributes to your way of life and influence you somehow, and good connections (network) means good influence. If you're jobless then get associated with people who could help you find a job. And with networking, one is not enough. The bigger your circle and the better these people are the better you are in making right decisions since you've got role models and they will keep you motivated if you have a good attitude towards other people's success and hard work. You can still be friends with your jobless friends but if they’ve got bad habits and attitude about making a living then it's about time you change your circle of friends 'coz let's get real. Not all your life you're young and have to be supported financially by your parents or relatives. We've each got capabilities and we live our own lives. Being dependent to anyone whose already working hard for themselves and yet you want to ride on their back so you're comfortable and have no worries. Millionares don't get to live with comfort without working hard.

Do brainstorming with your friends or people network. You're lucky if your friends or peers are always available when you need them. Everyone needs someone elses insight, advice, objective criticsm or an acknowledgement sometimes and friends play the biggest role when it comes to these things.

Note your mistakes or moments of IRRESPONSIBILITIES. When you're woke or aware of the sh*ts that you have done or making with your life you are much careful and wise. Better if you have a journal or records. Knowing the things you didn’t do or have failed to do on certain events makes you do better next time or would be much responsible. It's a good practice since you get to reflect and gets better at making objective criticisms about yourself.

Learn from your mistakes and take charge in your life. Humbling yourself when things go wrong in your life and admitting that you make mistakes makes you a better human. Some people are so irresponsible and yet they don't admit that they're to blame much worst they point fingers not realizing that they are not gonna change or learn doing that. When you think you don't do anything wrong or thinks it's always someone elses fault that you are miserable, you get to live in your own fantasy and won't go anywhere but stuck in there. You're in charge with your life. You make your own mistakes whether people do something wrong towards you, You're still in control on how to act or think. Even if people fail to do things for you it is you who could fulfill and do things for yourself. It's your life make it or break it it's your choice.


Check your attitude about all aspect of life. Our mindset lead our lives. If you know how you tend to think about things and people around you whether if you're positive, negative, objective, self centered or empathetic - you'll know what aspects in your way of thinking has to be improved or lessened. Some people just don't really care and that's the reason life gets harder and unimproving. Successful people master the ability of managing all aspects in their life: social, financial, education, profession, health, spiritual and leisure. Do you know these aspects in your life that you SHOULD be taking care of? What are your attitude about it? Do you even mind about these? If not then you should start doing so.

Keep Going!! Inspite of difficulties. Just live. It's not an option to give your life. I mean it's easier if we just don't care or just exist in this world doing nothing but breathe, eat and sleep. I know it's your life and that's how you want to live. But that's not living. God has given us a lot of abilities and opportunities so we could use, share and explore it. The world is so big and beautiful and we're suppose to be enjoying it. Living is hard work don't be lazy and coward. If you're stuck in poverty, cruelty, or misery then get out of it. There are things that you can't do but there are MANY things YOU CAN DO. Focus on that and find out more of the things you could able to do. An NBA basketball player wouldn’t know they're good at basketball if they didn't play it. Play the game. The game of life. Throw yourself out there. There are better things outside your box.

I wish you luck and God bless you!!

A Begining of Something Great

I've been wanting to write for so long but a lot of things happened since I last posted here on my page. Almost 3 years have gone so fast. Got a job, a new place, prepared my wedding, tried to build an event planning business, coordinated my wedding, got married, adjusted as a wife, still got a job then went on hiatus for sometime took a break since my health was really bad after all the stress build up preparing my wedding, pressures from relatives and then there's work in the bpo industry which you know is really stressful and tiring. I'd write about that on a separate post and also all about the details of our wedding. I just feel like I have to write again.

Almost 3 years have gone and currently I'm residing and working overseas. It's been a few months now since I came here and with all the adjustments, emotional breakdowns, overcoming anxiety attacks, suicidal thinkings and stuff I can feel that I’ve finally break through all the negativies and hardships plus I've got good news for my future goals. I can finally believe that God really pushes us to our limits, out of our comfort zones and let us see that there are more pretty stuff out there that needs to be seen or experienced and explored. I've been isolated most of my time here in my new work and gets really tired physically and emotionally, considering the comfort of the life that I have from my home country in my husbands arms. We just spent 1 year as a newlywed then I decided to seize the moment when an opportunity arrived and we’ve only had 2 weeks to decide. I'd also write about that on a separate post.

Thankfully I was able to write at the moment I was just stealing time and I'm really eager to write and to share all the beautiful things that happened to my life these past few years.

Please take time to read. Writing has been sort of a therapy to me and I know some people would relate. Specially those people who don't really speak up about their feelings or what their going through. I am like that. I bottle things up until I get crazy and explode. I've studied Psychology and I know how mental health should be dealt more seriously but I myself fail to do so most of the time. I just want to help out and inspire or maybe just spark interest to someone, to those who could relate to my stories. See you on my next posts and hope to be able to hear your thoughts and dillemas in life we could talk about it and just release baggages 😉. Lot's of love ❤ 💋